1 versus 2 versus 3 versus 4 versus….and so on. No matter how many children you have it is a struggle at times. Those of us who have more than 1 all started with one. Therefore we also know each stage is relative. That is something that is often forgotten. We have all been the first time Mom. The greatest stage of change and adjustment. The sudden transition from selfish to selfless. The Mom who both is searching for answers then on another occasion always knows best. Ready to offer advice but also seek confirmation or alignment with their choice. At that stage that one child is our whole world, we are so protective. Ready to instill all the good parenting “ideals” we had before we had children. Ready to get it perfect. To get it right. We learn quickly that getting it perfect is an unrealistic objective and gradually come to terms with that.